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Post by Martin Brofman on Jul 31, 2011 5:14:51 GMT 1
Yes, it's really time for a deep decision.
Please know that our thoughts are with you, and that there is always the possibility to turn things around. Remember that with me they had said the same thing - they had given me a month or two to live unless I coughed or sneezed - and then I might die immediately.
And here I am, 36 years later...
I had to get in touch with what I was unhappy about and change my life.
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Post by lovemusic on Jul 31, 2011 11:08:06 GMT 1
In 1980 I did a language course abroad and my landlord told me he had been diagnosed cancer and had been told he only had 6 more months to live... and this had happened 6 years earlier!! I kept in touch with him and he eventually died, many years later of old age, not cancer.
About 12 years ago a lump grew under my left foot... I showed it to my doctor and he said it was serious and I needed to have it checked and removed quickly, he said it could be a tumor... I remember my reaction was thinking: "I really can't afford this now!" (having a tunor)... and it was affecting my walking... I did'nt know BMS at that time... and I remember just thinking: "I can't afford this now, this is ridiculous!" (my son was only one year old), so I simply let it go and focused on what I had to do (a lot!!), I did not go to have it further checked and removed... I kept thinking: "this is ridiculous, not now, please..." and simly ignored the lump and focused on keeping busy... and eventually (within a few months) I forgot about it and, at some point I checked under my foot and I touched what i thought was the lump, but there was no more lump inside... the "shape" was there but it was like an empty socket.
This is my personal experience... I hpe it helps.
Namaste
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Post by corinne on Jul 31, 2011 19:23:57 GMT 1
Thank you.
Something to try. I have not been doing what I should and want to do. Small happy steps until I emerge. I am talking to my husband and we are working together to try and unpick any issues. I'll let the message board know how it goes. By the way, I wouldnt have dreamt of being so open about any of this. But it seems to be very important not only to me. We are in it together, which is a comforting thought.
Love
Corinne
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Post by Martin Brofman on Aug 1, 2011 6:15:34 GMT 1
We are with you.
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Post by spiritgirl on Aug 2, 2011 2:59:14 GMT 1
HI Corinne I don't have personal stories relating to cancer but the book that I mentioned in this thread talks about how the author healed herself from breast cancer. bodymirror.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=general&action=display&thread=1262Also on another thread Martin says this"If it was a strong enough event to leave you with a symptom, it must have been strong enough for you to remember, at least historically, what happened at that time." So in this way I don't have to dig deep but just try to remember what was happening at the time of the onset of symptoms. I have had considerable success using the BMS with a host of various problems. |
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Post by corinne on Aug 2, 2011 12:54:01 GMT 1
Thank you.
Actually Gill lives a couple of hours away and I saw her at the beginning of the year. I have some of her books, Living Magically particularly good. We discussed limiting beliefs and the use of EFT.
And I needed to get in contact with people who believe in consciousness energy medicines to make it real for me. I had had too long in the medical system.
I hope I can truly do this, how wonderful would that be. And now I have so many to share it with.
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Post by spiritgirl on Aug 4, 2011 21:15:09 GMT 1
Corinne A couple of thoughts that I had rereading this thread: 1) Do you feel angry at the fact that you have not been free to pursue your heart's desire, at first, because of your Mom's anxieties and then because of getting pregnant and married at a young age? 2) Are you angry/resentful at your husband for possibly having more leisure time than you and time for hobbies while you shoulder the burden of the household running and child rearing? 3) Does your husband travel a lot - leaving you alone to bear most of the household maintenance and child rearing? Does most of the decisions and responsibility of your kids fall on you? In other words did you feel angry or resentful about any of these things the months preceding your diagnosis. I know some men who live like guests in their own house  Of course this may or may not be true in your case. |
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Post by corinne on Aug 6, 2011 12:10:14 GMT 1
Thanks,
Yes those are valid questions.
I think number one comes closest to the how I've looked at it. However I went to uni and got a career so I did think I'd addressed those things. They were not satisfactory in filling the whole. To be honest this is a spiritual problem overall, a sort of test. I need to find what I'm looking for.
Husband had just started to work from home after 6 years of working the week away, just back at weekends. Until the first diagnosis.
Though he is a very hands on work around the house, problem solving orientated guy, I suppose it still wasn't easy that he was away.
But we have discussed that his way of working - head down and power through works for him, at a deeper something doesnt work for me. In fact the more he works hard doing jobs around the house the more exasperated i can get. Why? I think it's that he's working to keep it all together and something in me is pulling it apart- not the family or home but change to some other way of being.
Didnt expect to write that! Still not sure I'm making sense but Thanks.
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Post by Martin Brofman on Aug 6, 2011 19:41:06 GMT 1
> Husband had just started to work from home after 6 years of working the week away, just back at weekends. Until the first diagnosis.
That would fit the profile.
> Though he is a very hands on work around the house, problem solving orientated guy, I suppose it still wasn't easy that he was away.
Sounds like you have just needed more of a sense of personal contact with him.
> But we have discussed that his way of working - head down and power through works for him, at a deeper something doesnt work for me.
Exactly. And it sounds as though you have felt REALLY bad about that.
> In fact the more he works hard doing jobs around the house the more exasperated i can get. Why? I think it's that he's working to keep it all together and something in me is pulling it apart- not the family or home but change to some other way of being.
Again - I would ask if you just need more of a sense of personal contact with him - not just what he can do or what he contributes - but more a sense of feeling contact with who he is.
> Didnt expect to write that! Still not sure I'm making sense but Thanks.
Makes perfect sense to me - and as I mentioned above, it does certainly fit the profile.
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Post by spiritgirl on Aug 7, 2011 2:33:09 GMT 1
Corinne
Some more thoughts:
You mentioned that your husband is a good man and father. How do you feel about your husband now as compared to when you first married him? Do you still like him as a person? Are your feelings ambivalent towards him now as compared to when you first got married or even when you two first met? Or do you feel good and happy to see him when he steps thru the front door?
Also if you can't figure out who or what you're angry at then how about figuring who/what you're NOT angry at and use the process of elimination to get to the bottom of this.
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Of course this may or may not be true in your case.