Post by Angeleyes on Dec 29, 2009 22:34:48 GMT 1
Dear Martin,
My daughter has decided to work on improving her vision again. She is 14. She took off her glasses yesterday and managed without them all morning today also. She didn't really notice much change in her eyesight yet was content that her eyes didn't feel strained or tired.
She says she feels very emotional when she takes her glasses off. She cried when she took them off yesterday as she feels she has little or nothing in common with her circle of friends anymore. Today she voiced a comment or belief about an issue and she felt her older sister shouted at her and then she felt that I shouted at her. She got really annoyed and I could tell that she was upset. We had visitors at the time and I didn't sit them ( my daughters) down and work it out there and then. My daughter put her glasses on shortly after. Later she and I talked about it and I said that I didn't feel that I had shouted but if I had I was sorry. I explained that while it was quite ok for her to express herself on any subject I didn't feel that the topic was appropriate for the company we had at the time and that I had wanted the discussion ended. She feels better now that we talked about it.
She told me and that she would have prefered to sort the issue out at the time. This I now understand may have been a better option. She also did the first relaxation on the vision improvement CD.
She notices that she feels angry and irritated most of the time when she has her glasses off, I feel she also feels vunerable without them.
I had felt it was good that she noticed this and told her that maybe instead of going for the glasses she could work through whatever emotion was coming up.
Is there a way to help with this? and is there a way to turn things around so that she is looking to improve her vision with a more positive frame of mind?
As this kind of negative stuff happens when she goes without her glasses I can understand now why she keeps going back to using them, I need to change my thinking on this also.
I haven't yet spoken to my older daughter about what I also saw as her shouting at her sister because I didn't think I was yet it was perceived as that. Also I felt if I brought them both together to discuss the issue the older one may shout again and it might add to the problem rather than solve it. maybe this was not the best approach.
I also feel that sometimes people do shout at us and we need to learn how to deal with that.
I'm a bit lost at what to do for the best here. I wear glasses also. I would appreciate your guidance.
Thank you.
My daughter has decided to work on improving her vision again. She is 14. She took off her glasses yesterday and managed without them all morning today also. She didn't really notice much change in her eyesight yet was content that her eyes didn't feel strained or tired.
She says she feels very emotional when she takes her glasses off. She cried when she took them off yesterday as she feels she has little or nothing in common with her circle of friends anymore. Today she voiced a comment or belief about an issue and she felt her older sister shouted at her and then she felt that I shouted at her. She got really annoyed and I could tell that she was upset. We had visitors at the time and I didn't sit them ( my daughters) down and work it out there and then. My daughter put her glasses on shortly after. Later she and I talked about it and I said that I didn't feel that I had shouted but if I had I was sorry. I explained that while it was quite ok for her to express herself on any subject I didn't feel that the topic was appropriate for the company we had at the time and that I had wanted the discussion ended. She feels better now that we talked about it.
She told me and that she would have prefered to sort the issue out at the time. This I now understand may have been a better option. She also did the first relaxation on the vision improvement CD.
She notices that she feels angry and irritated most of the time when she has her glasses off, I feel she also feels vunerable without them.
I had felt it was good that she noticed this and told her that maybe instead of going for the glasses she could work through whatever emotion was coming up.
Is there a way to help with this? and is there a way to turn things around so that she is looking to improve her vision with a more positive frame of mind?
As this kind of negative stuff happens when she goes without her glasses I can understand now why she keeps going back to using them, I need to change my thinking on this also.
I haven't yet spoken to my older daughter about what I also saw as her shouting at her sister because I didn't think I was yet it was perceived as that. Also I felt if I brought them both together to discuss the issue the older one may shout again and it might add to the problem rather than solve it. maybe this was not the best approach.
I also feel that sometimes people do shout at us and we need to learn how to deal with that.
I'm a bit lost at what to do for the best here. I wear glasses also. I would appreciate your guidance.
Thank you.