Astigma

[Julius]

Hi Martin can you give me an advice i have astigma +1.25 on left eye and about +2.0 on the right eye. Can you tell me what is wrong and how i correct my eye sight .
Best regards
Julius

[Martin Brofman]

Astigmatism represents a distortion in seeing what you really want or what you really feel. It is trying to adapt to values that are not yours.

In my article, "Vision as a Metaphor" at www.healer.ch/visionarticle.html, it says, "Metaphysically, the right eye (the Will Eye) represents seeing clearly what one wants, and the left eye (the Spirit Eye) represents seeing clearly what one feels. In left-handed people, the traits are reversed. In a given situation, a person with astigmatism wants or feels what is true for them, considers it inappropriate, and changes it, and then believes the pretended change, no longer seeing clearly what was really wanted or felt. The focus is more on what "should" be wanted or felt, rather than what is real for that person, and a sense of confusion about who they really are. Who would they be if they stopped pretending to be who they are not?"

Check out the article for a more complete description of the process.

[Julius]

Dear Martin thank you i will read this article.
Best regards
Julius

[Julius]

Hi Martin again i have been thinking of your answer about the astigmatism and i have come to realize what i think the reason is for this ( correct me of you think otherwise). The thing is i am having a family 3 children (9, 18 and 24 years) and wife, i have been very unhappy in this marriage for long time but want to hold this family and not let my children down ( here i believe i am thinking to much of others in stead of my self is that correct). And i have also had overgrowth of Candida in my intestines which you told me once was because i was eating at me and i believe it is also because of this thinking is that correct?.
I also find it very difficult to take the step and split up the family so at the moment i am in not so good position.
Can you help me with some advise or heal the situation for me?
I know a lot of such work like long distance healing and such things.
I like so much to be well again and happy in my heart which i have not been for long time.
And just yesterday my wife told me that we should make this marriage better and i am so confused.
Best regards
Julius

[Maria]

Hi Julius,

The situation you find youself in seems to be a common one in the world today. The problem as I see it is that you're looking at it from what you "should" do rather than what your innermost being wants you to do.

If you stay in a situation that makes you sick, you do both yourself and your family a dis-service. In the end the only person you have to live with 24/7 is you....so take care of you first and the rest will begin to fall in place.

Peace,

Maria

[Maria]

Ok, two more things came up as I thought on this more...

First, the best gift you can give your children is to be a happy, fulfilled person yourself. You would not want them to stay in a situation that made them so unhappy...and if you do the same you are setting a bad example for them.

Second, true happiness has to come from within you. If you can't find it there, you will be doomed to repeat the bad marriage scenario again and again with different people and situations. Look inside first for your inner happiness, and the outer world will change to reflect your new attitude.

Peace,

Maria

[Julius]

Dear Maria this is so right and i have to listen to my inner voice and take that step. And as many people know the habit is the worst enemy to the people.
best regards
Julius

[Maria]

So proud of you Julius!!! And we're here should you need additional support

Peace,

Maria

[Martin Brofman]

To answer your questions, Julius, I agree with your analysis, and that all of the symptoms have been about you pretending to be happy when you have not been happy, and trying to fit into something by pretending to be what you are not.

As long as your wife is presenting you with the possibility to do something about it, go for it. Communicate with her openly, honestly, and directly where you are coming from, and what is true for you, and encourage her to do the same thing, and see if there is some way to achieve harmony between you - because it is evident that she has not been happy either, and I would be surprised if this were not also evident to your children.

See if there is a way to be happy in your marriage and family life, since that seems to be what you really want in your heart, anyway, and the door is open for that to happen.

[Julius]

Dear Martin and Maria all you have said is so good to know and is so right and i have also felt that these sickness in me is because of the situation. And i have been living for so long time with this situation that the habit/program inside me has to be changed and the thing is i have some trouble doing that or taking that step since the possible outcome would be my youngest child would have to change school which i do not like if they have to move in a different house.
And to correct the situation i have to do something but is seems to be some difficulty for me to brake the pattern i have been living with.
Do you have any concrete advise i can follow making this happened?
best regards
Julius

[Martin Brofman]

First - it sounds as though you hold the picture of your family breaking up - and you should first consider the possiblity of saving the situation. Hold THAT as a picture and explore that possibility with your wife.

This is an important moment in your life, and what you do now will decide what will happen later. If you do not decide for yourself, the Universe might do the deciding for you - so make the decision yourself.

[Julius]

Dear Martin this was a sharp one make the decision my self before the universe does it, yes i can see that i can not go any further hoping something will turn up for better if i am not in charge of the act, and this conversation is doing a lot for me and helping me on the right track, i feel that something good will happened by my act in the near days to come.
i will keep you posted when i have some new process in act.
best regards
Julius