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Myopia
Apr 12, 2007 23:05:36 GMT 1
Post by grahitam on Apr 12, 2007 23:05:36 GMT 1
Hello everybody! I´m new here and I´m glad to join this forum because after reading your messages I´m feeling supported in my improvement process. Thank you for sharing your realities. To me it´s the best way to learn and heal. I would like to share with you mine. I´ve been wearing glasses and contact lenses for more than 20 years. To understand that I provoked my myopia was a little shock at first but after analysing carefully tha way I´ve been looking at the world, I realised that it was something really threatening for me. I felt weak and inferior. To compensate this, I played the role opposite, protecting myself with a bubble of power, control, security and self-confidence (glasses included). I didn´t want to watch that world. After attending a body mirror course, I decided not to wear glasses anymore, but after a month and having resign from my job (because I was obliged to see what I was not interested in) I continue fighting with my fears. I have focus my life in my vision healing so I refuse any activity which implies glasses. But no to see clearly is sometimes hard and exasperating although I admit this vision also tranquillizes me exactly because of the same reason: it permits me not to face what people will be thinking of me. "Are they judging me? what are they really thinking about me? are they going to accept me?..." (all these "stupid" questions for the fact of non accepting yourself for being who you are). I "confess" I put my glasses ocasionally (the first time I thought I was betraying me) and the action of put-remove, put-remove, is an incovenient to my brain because it never knows how it has to see (and the headache appears). The thing is that my vision stays the same altough I´ve had brilliant moments of happiness and of course a brilliant vision accordance to them. But as the real change starts in the consciousness and not in the simple fact of removing the glasses, my greediness of healing and my insistence of not putting them are maybe blocking the process? Love Tere
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Myopia
Apr 13, 2007 0:48:59 GMT 1
Post by lovemusic on Apr 13, 2007 0:48:59 GMT 1
Hasta la vista Tere!
You can live, if you want, your myopia in a more relaxed way and be more flexible about wearing/not wearing your glasses... when you do wear them you can see yourself as "being kind to yourself", giving yourself a hand rather than "betraying yourself"...
I've had myopia since I was 17... I now wear my glasses only to drive, read distant signs, or if I'm in a crowded place with my son and want to be able to "spot" him easily... things like that. Other than that I accept to be inside an "Impressionist painting (and joke about the fact that people recognize me and greet me more than I recognize and greet them!).
I don't mind seeing the world as an Impressionist painting! I find that in certain periods my sight improoves and in others it does'nt... it might just all depend on my frame of mind (or "stato d'animo") at the time ...I guess that when I see better is when I'm not worrying too much about seeing clearly, when I'm relaxed... (are we giving more power to a pathology when we want to "defeat it"?).
I'm not doing anything secifically to improove my sight but it is -s l o w l y- improoving (eccept when I'm stressed there seems to be a lashback) and generally I feel more confortable without glasses.
Sometimes healing happens in a flash and sometimes it happens very gradually. Whatever your pace is you can enjoy the process of healing.
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Myopia
Apr 13, 2007 15:46:17 GMT 1
Post by grahitam on Apr 13, 2007 15:46:17 GMT 1
Ciao, Lovemusic!
Thank you for your reply and for listening to my story. The most amazing thing is when you compare your world vision with the one of an impresionist painting! I do love that period of colour explosion, when you need to approach the painting to see something figurative, defined, but you prefer to watch from the distance definitely. I think one of the keys is flexibility and not resistance, because the trunk of a rigid tree can break easily before any change. I really understand my healing with illusion and pleasure, but the impatience of not reaching the total healing is maybe what it has made me "deflate".... But I´m a "fighter" and try to focus on the positive things which are those that make me happy. Just one question: how can we focus a normal day at the time of doing things, activities?, I mean: if I want to watch TV and don´t watch it clearly, I put my glasses, I approach a lot, or I stop watching it?. If I attend a dance class, I decide to watch the movements to make them properly (so I put the glasses) or I feel the movements without seeing the teacher? (without glasses). Are they incompatible in the process of healing? To do everything without glasses is a way of healing or a way of "suffering" it?
Love
Tere
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kim
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Myopia
Apr 14, 2007 17:34:44 GMT 1
Post by kim on Apr 14, 2007 17:34:44 GMT 1
Hello,
Your posts are very interesting and I agree totally with this impressionist view of the world ! I discovered body miror system about 2 yrs ago. In fact I was on the point to do Lasik (myopia) operation but doctors said it would be better to wait 3-4 years as I will become nearsighted (presbythia) ! The fact that doctors found totally normal that we all must be handicaped hit me like a fist in the solar plexus. Friend of mine spoke about Martin and the trip began. Since yet, I never done regular exercices and meditation. I only visualize me watching the world without any glasses. Even this is difficult. It is as if my glasses were part of me. I fight (gently) against the feeling but this difficulty proven me how deep the glasses had been part of my conscious. Not wanting to see the world is a really clear fact now but it was not...
After the first course I first decided not to wear any contact lenses anymore so that I could put away my glasses at anytime. I had really great spots of clarity which enhanced my volonty to follow the trip. Anyway, myopia was quite strong and I was unable to read the computer screen without glasses. I said OK for now and so on for other activities like driving. I understand perfectly the choice we have to do at each act of our day life: should I see this clearly or not ? Do I want to really see all details of this movie or is it OK with the sound and blury faces ? Answer can change from day to day I just allow myself to agree totally with what I chose without telling me "I should resist, or I am lazy". Each time I got these so clear flashes of viewing I am delighted even if I greatly want them to be permanent. Some weeks ago, I did something which was totally unbelievable for my "ancient me" I drove some time just letting my glasses on the very top of my nose. The feeling was so great ! And this sensation again put weight on the balance of "I see clearly without any help". I would also add that during one of the Martin stage someone asked me if I could drive without glasses. I was on the point to answer "not totally yet" but a friend of mine answered at my place saying "NO ! SHe is not crazy". This kind of sentences can put a little mess on my mind but in fact it had kicked me to dare to try ;D Now, I gradually follow the improvement and I am really not comfortable with my glasses on. It is like tight shoes I would like to put away all the time. ( I cannot do so only because of social reasons as working... which is also a point of my life I should explore a little more). Thanks to Martin, thanks to the simplicity but powerful method he taught, I know I am on the right sunny side of the road.
Dont forget to be happy
Kim
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Myopia
Apr 14, 2007 20:21:58 GMT 1
Post by lovemusic on Apr 14, 2007 20:21:58 GMT 1
Hi Tere and Kim,
After reading Martin's book I try to wear my glasses as little as I can but I do not feel guilty when I do wear them and I know I can enjoy a movie 100% with my glasses on, so I wear them at the cinema... no problem.
I just don't wear them "mechanically" as I did before, just because it is nice to see clearly... I try to remember not to wear them... even when I drive if I know the way because I do that itinerary often then I won't wear them; if I do not know the way and need to read signs, or if I'm at the station and need to check the train timetable, platform etc. then I'll wear them.
I've made the shift from "needing to wear them" to "needing to have them in my pocket if need be". Sometimes I have to take them off because I find the lenses too strong; other times I wear them and they don't seem strong enough. I believe my sight is very gradually improoving... I just have'nt payed much attention to my myopia because I had other problems which bothered me much more than that (I had my sight measured some years ago... maybe it's time to have it measured again just for curiosity).
Love and Happiness, lovemusic
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Myopia
Apr 14, 2007 20:33:37 GMT 1
Post by lovemusic on Apr 14, 2007 20:33:37 GMT 1
even when I drive if I know the way because I do that itinerary often then I won't wear them; P.S. However, my myopia was just under the level at which it becomes compulsory (by law) to wear glasses when driving, therefore please do wear them when driving if you must
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Myopia
Apr 16, 2007 0:40:31 GMT 1
Post by Giovanni on Apr 16, 2007 0:40:31 GMT 1
Hello Grahitam, try to read the "Tao Te Ching" by Lao Tze. But not any translation: choose the Tao Te Ching translated and adapted by Stephen Mitchell. See you Giovanni
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Myopia
Apr 17, 2007 21:47:44 GMT 1
Post by grahitam on Apr 17, 2007 21:47:44 GMT 1
Thank you for this idea, Kim "I just allow myself to agree totally with what I chose without telling me "I should resist, or I am lazy" and thank you also Lovemusic for detailing specific examples of your daily routine. I feel myself reflected in them. They are very helpful.
Somebody said: If you want to drive without glasses "get a non glasses drive license"!. I first thought that putting my glasses was the way of getting used to this "clear vision" and will never improve my vision like that. (of course, perceptions create my reality). I refused to wear them. But the healing didn´t happen. After I realise that, as my vision was protecting me, there were a lot of things to work with, to solve before seeing clearly. I am "lucky" considering my healing vision is my main "problem" so far... Today has been a hard day but try to remind me every day to be happy.
Love
Tere
Pd. Thanks Giovanni for the recommendation
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Myopia
Apr 18, 2007 6:41:59 GMT 1
Post by Martin Brofman on Apr 18, 2007 6:41:59 GMT 1
As the book says -
When you do not need the glasses to do what you are doing, take them off. If you need them to do what you are doing, as with driving your car, for example, put them on for that, and when you are done doing that, take them off again. If when you put them on they hurt your eyes, that means they are already too strong, and it's time to get your eyes examined to see the degree of improvement so far, and if you still need one, to get a new prescription.
Continue until you see normally - and then if your driver's license says that you need glasses, you will have to get a new driver's license that says you do not need them to drive - and you will have a new sense of identity as a person who sees clearly.
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Myopia
Apr 22, 2007 2:03:05 GMT 1
Post by Giovanni on Apr 22, 2007 2:03:05 GMT 1
Listen Grahitam, if you find a behavioral optometrist you can get from him a slightly weaker prescription to drive during the night and another even weaker prescription to drive in daylight. A weaker prescription gives you a "space" to improve with all the methods presented here. I didn't find any behavioral optometrist so I falsify my own prescription but of course I cannot suggest to do this to another person. Giovanni
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Myopia
Apr 23, 2007 23:00:01 GMT 1
Post by grahitam on Apr 23, 2007 23:00:01 GMT 1
Do you think my blurred vision has the mission of helping me to show me exactly as I am, independently what people is thinking, could say or feel about me? The idea of "not care" what people think or say, and my vision is giving me the time and chance to learn and practice this unworried attitude in my daily routine in order to keep it when the vision is clear? To start behaving the way I really want, without seeing external threats, wearing what I love without shame, saying what I think without judges in order to be prepared when I really could see the world´s faces and attitudes?...
Love
Tere
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Myopia
Apr 24, 2007 16:46:34 GMT 1
Post by Martin Brofman on Apr 24, 2007 16:46:34 GMT 1
Sounds right to me - the myopia has been telling you that you have been afraid to see the judgement in people's eyes. When you don't care, you experience more a sense of freedom to be who you are, and the release of the tensions about feeling judged should then result in seeing more clearly.
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Myopia
May 20, 2007 8:24:49 GMT 1
Post by april on May 20, 2007 8:24:49 GMT 1
hello everyone, You say that when the glasses become uncomfortable,it's time to get a new prescription.Well, in my case the glasses are terribly uncomfortable, making me dizzy and giving me headackes, but my myopia and astigmatism are the same. I went to see a behavioural optometris who did a million tests on my eyes and informed me that my eyes can not tolerate glasses.In his opinion this is not good, because it means the eyes are very tired and can not take the pressure of the glasses,although the myopia and astigmatism reach a total of -6 dioptres (still).
During the last 6 months I have been using a -3 dioptres pair of glasses.(and even that is not very comfortable, although better than the -6)
And right now,I find myself under a lot of pressure and to tell you the truth ,if I could, I would choose to put my normal glasses back on,tired of squinting and trying so hard to find everything...at least until I can resolve the other issues that are giving me stress.
But, I can't do that, and it looks like I have no choice but to continue not wearing my glasses, which is something that I would not choose at this moment. Trying to move around with the blur of a -6 is something I can't afford right now,I've been doing it for a year and I 've had enough.But when I force my eyes to wear the glasses after 30 minutes I feel sick. What would you say on this? love, april
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Myopia
May 20, 2007 8:33:22 GMT 1
Post by Martin Brofman on May 20, 2007 8:33:22 GMT 1
First, I would tell you to not "try" to see, but rather relax about your vision being blurred. Otherwise the tension about not seeing clearly goes into the eye muscles, and makes you see less clearly.
Second, I would suggest you look at the situations in your life about which you are unhappy, and do something about them - or at least begin to move in that direction.
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Myopia
May 20, 2007 9:19:08 GMT 1
Post by april on May 20, 2007 9:19:08 GMT 1
thanks for your reply.
I will try to relax since focusing on the "I can't see and I'm tired-I want to wear my glasses-but I can't wear my glasses-but I can't see and I'm tired-..." is going nowhere.I'll just accept the blur for now and try to calm down.
As for the situations in my life,I'm so confused right now I feel like a bomb ready to explode.I wish I knew the answers...and probably I do, but I think that's the problem,I feel like I have too many different answers and I'm not even sure I have the right questions,if you can see what I mean by that, I can't find a better way to put it.Again, I wish I could just calm down and stop chasing my tail. Thanks again.
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