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I could not agree with you more, Martin, about the so-called 'religious' people trying to impose their thoughts about what's really true onto others. I think these kind of people use the guise of 'religion' when their rigid ideas actually come from ego. Crazy, like you said.

The easiest way not to get approval is to seek it, you also wrote: I agree with that 100 percent as well. People do respect you more when you just go with who you are, without trying to inflict that on anyone else. It's like they sense you are secure with yourself and that relaxes others, most of the time, the ones who aren't threatened by that). I have found this to be true in my own life as well.

I also made myself sick seeking approval and then of course I would blame the other people for making me sick; it was their fault because they were so close-minded and so quick to make assumptions about me. Eventually I got much clearer-headed abuot it all and admitted that it was me who was doing this to myself.

The Tibetan thing makes sense too. Just be who you are, without apologies or excuses. This is a worthy thing to dedicate one's self to. It frees you from all the ego garbage, immediately, that thought.

Choose to express yourself to those who are open to your ideas: Amen to that. Thank you for sharing all this, Martin.

[kim]

reading said:

I agree that it's best not to care whether people are looking at you and what they're thinking about you. However, this is far easier said, than done. Even if you tell yourself you don't care, you still do, on some level. It's very had to fully give up those kinds of thoughts. They don't exist only on a conscious level, after all.

I share my own experiment about the fact of not seeing people watching you. I am almost ready to leave my myopia (dioptria minus 4 both eyes) and knowing Martin's stage for 3 yrs.

During the first stage I thought I would never be able to leave my glasses. Not seeing if people were smiling at me or not, not seeing all these tiny expressions on a face which tell you more about what the person want to "speak" to you was terrible ! But I decided to share totally fully the experiment.

I was there in order to forget my glasses for ever, it was only 4 days and it would be stupid not to take all opportunities going to the healing. Well, I had to battle myself many times in order not to wear glasses.

First stages I had them in a box, in a bag, close to me.

Then, I never again took the box with me. The glasses stayed alone four days and four nights. I was not only "proud" of me but really felt hurt when I had to wear glasses again and I appreciated a kind of deep freedom feeling...
I also had to learn to ask for help. That means that sometimes I asked someone to see for me :- ) and I realized that I was not used to ask.
Now, letting my glasses when I dont need them is just becoming a reflex. Even at work, during meeting, when gardening (I checked at the end of the work which plants I weeded and fortunatelly no tears till yet) I only cut the wire of the headphones of my mp3player but... this could maybe had happened if I were not myopia... maybe :-)
I even bought this kind of ugly string so that walking in the street I could easily let the glasses down hanging on my neck.
It took me 2 years to do so :- ) I hope you will reccord/challenge it and feel pleasure not seeing people in only ... let's say 6 months ?


In fact, allowing myself not to be hooked to those spectacles let me much more free and explains to myself a lot of different things abou my personnality. The journey is going on and I notice that myopia is no more the main purpose of my healing. Thank you a lot, lot Martin !

Go on and do not miss this wonderful trip,

Kim

[Martin Brofman]

Thanks for sharing this, Kim.

Yes, releasing yourself from the dependency of the glasses is an important first step. Then, just using the glasses when you must have them in order to function - and when you are not wearing them, watching how your eyesight reflects your state of mind - and insisting on following the path of clarity.

Trust your trip.