Post by Autumn on Jan 13, 2006 13:13:40 GMT 1
I have been doing some eye exercies - and have recently realized that I rarely look at other people directly in the face, or in their eyes when I am talking to them. I tend to look at them out of focus or around just past their head, kinda like taking in the whole picture all at once, rather than focusing in directly at one point.
I realized that I developed this probably in my late teens, i used to be an excessively shy person, who had difficulty in talking to people, and I think I developed this way of 'seeing" as a way to appear that I am looking at them and it made me feel "safer" and more confident.
I am making a conscious effort to redirect my point of focus, more into other people's eyes, but often find the feelings of anxiety / uncomfortableness bubbling up.
I've known for some time that i have a lot of fear, vulnerability / safety issues and really i don't know how to overcome these feelings.
I know where some of those feelings started - when I was a child, my parents fought alot and I often felt very scared (and angry). I also grew up with being told that the world was an evil place and other people who weren't a part of our religious organisation were the wicked ones
( I don't belong to that organisation now that i am an adult & and don't believe these statements for myself consciously, ...but the feelings of fear were imprinted on me at a very young age).
Any suggestions / help in dealing with feelings of anxiety and fear.. and learning to reconnect with the world I live in.
Many thanks
I realized that I developed this probably in my late teens, i used to be an excessively shy person, who had difficulty in talking to people, and I think I developed this way of 'seeing" as a way to appear that I am looking at them and it made me feel "safer" and more confident.
I am making a conscious effort to redirect my point of focus, more into other people's eyes, but often find the feelings of anxiety / uncomfortableness bubbling up.
I've known for some time that i have a lot of fear, vulnerability / safety issues and really i don't know how to overcome these feelings.
I know where some of those feelings started - when I was a child, my parents fought alot and I often felt very scared (and angry). I also grew up with being told that the world was an evil place and other people who weren't a part of our religious organisation were the wicked ones
( I don't belong to that organisation now that i am an adult & and don't believe these statements for myself consciously, ...but the feelings of fear were imprinted on me at a very young age).
Any suggestions / help in dealing with feelings of anxiety and fear.. and learning to reconnect with the world I live in.
Many thanks