Dealing with making changes

[Free]

This question is really to those who have made the decision to live by: ‘I do what I want to do, to be happy’.

Just wondered how you coped with the change after making the initial decision, because surely there are things like occupation that you are committed to for a while, or even friends if you rent a place with them like me. I am obligated to these things until next summer. I’ve begun to think that my occupation and friends are more in accord with the previous me - who made decisions out of fear, rather than what feels good. Anyway, I’m still living with too much stress (which is very tangible – my eyes are very red and I feel a lot of pressure in my face) but can’t really enforce the changes and I’m struggling to see situations in a different light. Has anyone got tips on how to cope when in this transition phase?

Thanks.

[Martin Brofman]

Because there is a certain way of being that is associated with every symptom, when you release the symptom you must also release the way of being that created it. The process of healing implies a process of transformation...

When you change your vibration, you may no longer find yourself surrounded by the same vibration that you have / are after the change. You need to accept that, and remain in the consciousness you know to be more clear.

If you need to distance yourself a bit from those around you, in order to maintain your own positive consciousness, and maintain the perception of your own healing, understand that it is necessary, and that you will then begin to notice a movement attracting a new vibration.

You know that your time in your current situation is temporary, and that can help you feel better, as you look forward to seeing yourself in a new work and social environment.

It is indeed the process I went through. That's why I "retired" from the business community at 38 years old. It is a decision I have never regretted.

Do what you really want to do, do not do what you really do not want to do, and trust your trip.

[Free]

Thanks Martin,

Reading what you said has really given me the belief to follow on and do what I want to do in all aspects of my life. I feel very liberated now as well.

So thanks again.

[Free]

I'll just add that since I've been living more this way, 'what I don't want', has become much more clearer and pronounced, as though the resistance was always there but was not being completely acknowledged. Now it's being acknowledged it's like a breath of fresh air...with the added bonus of clearer vision.

[Martin Brofman]

Excellent!

[wearefree]

Martin,

Would you also say that being honest and genuine with your emotions while you interact in daily life is an important part of this process. For instance, when we are unhappy or upset we should have the courage to honour how we feel, rather than fabricate an emotional response to please others? Indeed, maybe if we were to completely honour the emotions we currently feel, then we would actually start to do something to help ourselves rather than continuously suppress the way we really feel.

Wearefree(formerly know as free )

[Martin Brofman]

Exactly.

Nice that in addition to your own freedom you also honor the freedom of others.

Love + Freedom = Clarity.

[wearefree]

As I've been following my intuition more each day, I've had a few realisations.
One of those realisations is that some of my relationships are built around my submissive attitude. What I'm referring to is my tendency to try my upmost to get along with people...when in actual fact these people are the opposite to me.
So I realise now that I've just been putting myself into situations that cause me too much tension. I've decided that I'd rather not be friends with people that cause me too much tension.

All of this has only come to the fore recently as I've learnt to get in touch with my emotions and intuition. One consequence however, has been the sudden ability to know how I feel, and I do not feel great being in the current situations that my old attitude has got me in. I know this is partly a good thing because it means I'm realising what I don't like.

But I've also read that unless you can maintain a positive outlook or a satisfaction with your current situation, then you will fail to attract things into your life that take you to the next stages of what you want (the law of attraction/allowing) ? Any thoughts?

[Sunshine]

Hello Wearefree,

What you said in your last message really struck a cord with me.

I too do alot of things for the sake of peace but what I never realised was it was peace on the outside but war on the inside.
Bringing with it a whole lot of situations I didn't want. I never realised that I was 100 % resonsable for that.

I too am starting to know what I feel for the first time in my life, it is powerful.

Thank you for putting it so beautifully for me.

WOW, Wearefree this is big thanks for sharing.

Take care and God Bless

[Martin Brofman]

>>I've also read that unless you can maintain a positive outlook or a satisfaction with your current situation, then you will fail to attract things into your life that take you to the next stages of what you want (the law of attraction/allowing) ? Any thoughts?

You have to be honest with yourself about how you feel - and I work with the idea that it would be nice to always be able to say, "I love where I am. I love who I am with. I love what I am doing."

If you do not love where you are, you have to find yourself somewhere else.

If you do not love being with the person in that moment, you need to be not with that person in that moment. Maybe later something will change.

If you do not like what you are doing, you need to be doing something else.

Your old vibration created situations that no longer feel at home for you, so you have to allow the migration to another vibration that feels more in accord with who you are now.

Trust your trip.

[wearefree]

I completely agree with you Sunshine, ‘war on the inside’ is a great analogy.
Thanks for that Martin, at first when I read it, it seemed like a step that was beyond my capability, my initial reaction was, ‘there’s no way I can do what I love to do, be where I love to be, with who I love to be with’. But then a moment later I decided, ‘it is possible, and it’s the best way for me to heal’. When I did this a sensation came over me, a relaxing, like my spirit was being accepted by me for once.
Do you think it’s best to follow this on a day-to-day, or even moment-to-moment basis?
I do feel a lot more satisfied now, and I think I’ll be better able to cope with my current situation, just knowing that when the opportunity arises I will take it to do what I really want to do.

Thanks for all the help.

[Martin Brofman]

>>Do you think it’s best to follow this on a day-to-day, or even moment-to-moment basis?

Yes. It's my alarm clock, keeping me awake, so that my life is not about walking in my sleep in a cultural trance.

[wearefree]

Thanks Martin.

Today I had some flashes of near-perfect vision. They came following my decision to trust myself, whatever thoughts arose(or I already have) without fighting them. I then felt what felt like my consciousness moving/rising to something new and this brought about a clear flash - the clearest one I've ever had, where the room lighting became significantly brighter.

Soon after, someone who I feel tension with regard to, came into the room, and the better vision went away. I think if I'm really honest I don't want this person to know how I really feel about them, and yet I do want my eyesight to come back for my own sake.

So thats the current dilemma, and I guess the best solution is just to try and distance myself from those who cause tension in my consciousness.

From everything you say, what I've personally felt and read about, it seems alot of society have forgotten our inherent human nature and instead like to create tension in life. This often comes out of a sensed pressure to 'be' someone we are not. Just my thoughts

[wearefree]

Just like to update.

My consciousness is taking to the new me, and it feels great. It feels like a stripping down of all I'm not, and a restating of all that I am. Right now, I feel my potential for the things I am talented in (but which I have not embraced due to what others might think of me) is unlimited. Those things are sport and music. I literally feel like I can reach for the stars and attain my dreams, I feel no more resistance to what I want to do.

I no longer fear my family's view of me, or that of anyone else to be honest. I am glad to have taken this journey and it feels like I'm saying 'yes' to myself for once. My vision is and has improved, but to tell you the truth, although that was my initial motive, the feeling that comes with saying yes to yourself and who you are and doing whatever you want to do, has been the greatest reward. The vision improvement has really just been a bonus 'side effect'.

Thanks for helping me through this journey, it's been life changing.

[Martin Brofman]

That's what many others say also, that the improved clarity of their vision is just a side effect of everything else happening in their lives.

Trust your trip, and if your vision blurs, look at what you were thinking, and in which way you were not being yourself and/or acknowledging your truth, and then do the right thing to get back to inner and outer clarity.