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Post by Spirit Girl on Jul 13, 2006 20:16:40 GMT 1
Hi Martin,
I was just wondering about your opinion regarding one's attention span and myopia or other eye conditions.
Mine seems to have gotten worse over the past 7-8 years. I just feel I cannot be around most people without getting tired - it takes an inordinate amount of energy to pay attention to what most people are saying to me! I feel why are they telling me this trivial stuff and its a waste of my time ;D
I also looked up the words "attention" and "see" in the dictionary and it says - SEE = To give or pay attention to.
So I tend to avoid people - which may be the myopic tendency. Basically I am still trying to solve my puzzle of myopia and lattice degeneration.
Thank you.
Spirit Girl
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Post by Martin Brofman on Jul 14, 2006 11:29:43 GMT 1
Attention span is related to root chakra issues - and thus in some way could be related to myopia. The sense of isolation is more a question of crown chakra.
Liook at what was going on for you when all this began, so that you can better understand what needs to happen for your healing.
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Post by Maria on Jul 14, 2006 14:20:43 GMT 1
Hi Spirit Girl,
Another thing to look at is the possibility that you are absorbing energy from other people, which can overwhelm and drain you. I know this happens to me at times.
And I have also experienced a shorter attention span, especially in the last year or so. I haven't seen it as a problem though (most of the time). Instead, I see it as a sign that I'm no longer willing to tolerate things that are not what I really really want.
Peace,
Maria
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Post by Spirit Girl on Jul 18, 2006 16:33:56 GMT 1
HI Martin and Maria Thank you for your feedback. I think the attention span is related to my eye "stuff" or I "stuff" !! The isolation as well since I feel I have to get to the bottom of it and am preoccupied with it and feel all else is trivial to this. I read tons of metaphysical and spiritual stuff and have no problem concentrating on that  And yes I do find people draining my energy! But I feel that is related to my myopia as well since I am trying to "cover up" my real self that that takes all the energy I have. I am seeing a pattern in my thoughts and feel very excited now. Now that I am identifying them I can change them. SG |
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Post by Robin C on Jul 18, 2006 21:33:15 GMT 1
I also recommend that you read The Voice Of Knowledge, by Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. It's about this subject.
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Post by Spirit Girl on Jul 19, 2006 17:30:01 GMT 1
Hi Robin Thanks for recommendation - I checked this out on Amazon, looks very interesting and is on my list of to-read books now  SG |
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Post by Robin C on Jul 19, 2006 21:09:45 GMT 1
Yes, it's a wonderful book, all of Miguel's books are. If you haven't read The Four Agreements, I strongly recommend you get your hands on that one first. : )
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Post by Spirit Girl on Aug 27, 2006 0:16:14 GMT 1
HI Martin
I was wondering what you thought of people who are too sensitive to other people's pain. For example, sometimes I deeply hurt for other people. Sometimes I feel nothing for others. I feel it as a physical feeling in my chest - a heavyness when I perceive others are hurt(mostly emotionally). I don't think I was like that pre-myopia. I am remembering some incidents from my childhood that hurt me deeply but basically it involved other people and not me.
Is this also because of some stress in my consciousness or maybe just empathy? Could it be related to my myopia?
Spirit Girl
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Post by Martin Brofman on Aug 27, 2006 8:01:18 GMT 1
Sounds like you are dropping inside to avoid the hurt - isolating yourself - and when you feel the pain of others it's because you do not want to feel alone. Points to something in the crown chakra - a sense of separation or isolation - not directly related to the myopia, but perhaps pointing to why it happened.
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Post by SpiritGirl on Jan 9, 2007 16:35:34 GMT 1
HI Martin
I woke up this morning with a small bright red spot on the top right side of my right eye - most of it is hidden by the eyelid(i'm right handed). It looks like a burst blood vessel. There is no change in vision or any discomfort. I was wondering what might be the cause of it.
Last night I had realized how much pressure I put on myself by saying I should do this or shouldn't have done that! I decided to release and just be ok with the way I am. After this I felt a release of pressure on the right side of my face towards the temple/right eye. Today I feel this side of my face is more relaxed than usual. So I am puzzled by this new development.
I also went thru a lot of tension this weekend - had to visit the parents.As usual a slew of conflicted thoughts and feelings came up
There is also another family member telling me constantly how awful my parents are to her. This whole family situation was making me feel so icky.
When they were out of town recently I felt that I did not have any real problems and I could handle whatever came my way. Now that feeling has reversed itself. I feel a heavy burden.
I feel fearful and also fed up with my eye problems. Please help me.
Thank you in advance
SpiritGirl
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Post by Martin Brofman on Jan 9, 2007 17:58:11 GMT 1
Right eye - if you are right-handed - is your Male Eye or your Will Eye. If we call it your Male Eye, it coujld say something about not seeing the male. Recent difficulties involving a male - perhaps your father, for example, or "anbother family member," who might be a male. Angry with a male?
If we call it your Will Eye, something about "It hurts you to see something, that is contrary to the way you want it to be."
The eye problems are just reflecting the other problems. It sounds clear that when the family was out of town you felt like you had no problems. You have to release stuff about / with your family.
Anyway, congratulations on your decision to no longer "should" on yourself.
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Post by SpiritGirl on Jan 9, 2007 18:50:13 GMT 1
HI Martin
Thank you for your quick reply. You are right - I do feel angry with my brother as well. I also feel "weak willed" and "powerless" when it comes to my family.
My brother and his family was at my parents this weekend as well. I feel angry with my brother who doesn't stand up for his wife when my parents are not being nice to her. He ignores it and in fact my husband told me that he was "cozying" up with my father in the kitchen and really bonding with him while I was upstairs. My sister-in-law ends up complaining to ME about him and my parents. I also feel angry that my brother does not side with me either against their bad behaviour (in the past).
I also spent the previous weekend at my brothers place and got irritated with them as well.
So I guess the total effects of my parents return from their extended trip, the visit to my brothers, and to my parents really did me in.
The only thing that works for me is limiting contact. And not thinking of them. I do want to have a close relationship with my parents and brother. But basically I feel repelled by their (all 3) personalities (even tho' I love them on some level) so its difficult to interact with them.
Anyway Thanks so much for being there and reading. I will keep working on myself. I know I deserve to live in ease and harmony. I also welcome any more insights that you may have.
Spirit Girl
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Post by SpiritGirl on Jan 9, 2007 23:01:39 GMT 1
I also forgot to mention previously that my mother also complained to me about my father this past weekend.
Anyway on rereading my previous posts I realized nobody was nasty to me personally but I just feel other people's pain and take it personally for some strange reason! When somebody complains to me or tells me their problems I feel as if I have to do something about it. Since I can't I feel powerless. Then later on I feel vaguely abused.
I guess I have boundary issues - I end up keeping people at a distance, pushing them away. I can't get too close to them because of the above. But I don't want to be so sensitive to other people's issues. Maybe it also has to do with that I don't feel like a person in my own right sometimes - just somebody to dump their problems on.
Does anybody else feel the same way I wonder. Anyway I do feel better now - writing it down has clarified some stuff for me. Its a work in progress.
SpiritGirl
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Post by Martin Brofman on Jan 10, 2007 7:48:54 GMT 1
"When somebody complains to me or tells me their problems I feel as if I have to do something about it. Since I can't I feel powerless. Then later on I feel vaguely abused."
I guess that could be more "shoulds" that you have been putting on yourself. Something more you can release. Could be that all this happened to give you some fine-tuning about more ways you had been "should-ing" on yourself.
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Post by queen8 on Jan 10, 2007 12:07:27 GMT 1
You wrote: "Does anybody else feel the same way I wonder."
I do!
I'm still investigating this and want to release it. During meditations I've come into the feeling of being very little, before I could speak, and how I could sense that when my mother held me, she felt comforted, more at ease. And I loved her and wanted to help her, so I let her hold me tight, even when I would have liked to be apart from her. If you see... So my pattern is very old.... As if I need to be something FOR someone else, that it's not enough to just be me...
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